52 Reasons Why I Love Your Mom – #7: Quality Time

quality-time

A few months before you were born I read a book called The Five Love Languagesby Gary Chapman. In it he talks about five different love languages that help you learn the secret to love that lasts. One of these languages, is quality time. When my wife an I took the survey to discover which love languages we were, we discovered that we both shared Quality Time as one them.

This makes perfect since because there is no one I enjoy spending my time with more, than your mom. Ok, I enjoy spending time with you too, don’t worry. But there is just something special about spending quality time with the person you fell in love with. It doesn’t matter what we are doing, It could be going to the movies together, walking through the mall, or simply having pillow talk each night before we fall asleep. We always seem to enjoy ourselves. One day I am sure you will find your special someone and then you will understand.

Advertisements

52 Reasons Why I Love Your Mom – #6: Her Silver Lining Rule

You know, there are so many people in this world who live very depressed lives. When things don’t go the way they plan, it gives them a great excuse to complain. And the fact that we have social media nowadays, only adds fuel to their already massive fire. Vague status’s such as “I can’t believe he did that!” or “Why did this have to happen to me?”are simply screaming, “Hey come feed off my negative drama.”

One of the great things I love about your mom is that, for one, she never liked using social media for drama. And two, she always liked to look at the glass half full. Nothing ever seems to get her down. And even if something does, it would never keep her down for long.

A few years ago she created this new simple rule that you will probably know very well by the time you are old enough to read these letters, and it goes something like this. Every time you state a negative statement such as, “That food tasted awful!”, or “This homework sucks!”, or “Everybody hates me!”, you would then have to immediately respond with two positives on the same subject matter. So for the example, “That food tasted awful,” you might say, “But I’m lucky to have such a wonderful, mother who is willing to cook for me,” and “At least I’m not having to eat out of a garbage can!” 

By following this simple rule, you take what could have turned an entire evening into a downward spiral, and send it soaring back up to that silver lining, we all should be looking for.

52 Reasons Why I Love Your Mom – #5: Respectful

Your mom has taught me that respect is a lot more than just how we say things to one another. It’s also how we listen to each other or how we treat our elders. Such as giving up your seat for someone who is older than you, or not falling asleep in church while the pastor is trying to teach you something. As the old saying goes “Actions speak louder than words.” And being respectful is so much more than simply having good manners. I hope that as I raise you, I’ll learn to respect your feelings as much as I expect you to do the same.

52 Reasons Why I Love Your Mom – #4: Interested In You

I know that there are many things I have enjoyed doing over the years that aren’t really your mom’s cup of tea. But I have learned that regardless, she tries to participate in those things simple because she is interested in me. Ever since I made this realization, I have strived to do the same for her. Being involved in other peoples interests may broaden horizons you didn’t know existed, but will most definitely deepen any relationship.

52 Reasons Why I Love Your Mom – #3: Her Determination

One could call it stubbornness. Another could call it determination. It just depends on the situation and whether or not they want to be in the dog house. I have yet to see your mother give in to a challenge. She doesn’t like to fail. This was one of the amazing attributes she had when I met her. It was what drew me to her. She had something that I so desperately wanted to have. The drive to never give up no matter the obstacles.

52 Reasons Why I Love Your Mom – #2: Enjoys the Little Things

No matter what I do for her, whether its the diamond ring she wanted for our engagement, or a silly origami frog I crafted, she is always over the moon that I thought of her. To see the excitement on her face as I tell her about something I did for her, gives me more joy than anything she could ever do for me. Remember Harvie, never take for granted the little things, treasure them always, for these are the foundations of any great relationship.

52 Reasons Why I Love Your Mom – #1: Her Front Tooth

I never understood why I liked it so much but, when your mom smiles and gives a slight giggle of excitement there is one little tooth that sticks out from under her top lip. I probably like it because I know when I see that tooth, my wife is truly happy or excited. It brings a smile to my face every time. Its amazing the loving details we will notice if we only take the time to do so.