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Dear Harvie Sue,

As I write this, you are only months away from being born, and from the day we realized you were on your way, mommy said we should make it a point to journalize our experiences so that we would never forget these precious moments, as well as give you the opportunity to experience it with us in the years to come. I will admit that I was not as dedicated to the task as your wonderful mother, however I have had many thoughts and feelings over the last several months, some good, some bad, that I never want to forget.

My goal is that hopefully if I write out my feelings now while I’m feeling them they will mean so much more to you in the future when you perhaps are facing the same challenges and issues as I. From the day you are born and well into your childhood there are many things that I will be able to teach you. However there are also many things that you truly will not be able to understand until you are older. This journal is to allow both you and myself to remember these moments and to benefit us both for whatever lies ahead.

Sincerely,
Dad

The Love of a Child


From the moment they are placed in your arms on their very first day of life, you have that sense of closeness. It’s not something you can really explain, but somehow, even in their ignorance, you feel their need for safety, to feel you close by. In a small way, it is how they are saying “I love you” before they are every really able to. But as the days roll into months and then years and their vocabulary goes through the roof, that first time they utter those three beautiful words, your heart will melt all over again. 

I am not ashamed to say that hearing my daughter tell me, “I love you daddy” brought a very hazy, wet glaze to my eyes. You love them so much, unconditionally, from the very first moments, but to hear the reciprocation, makes you want to love them all the more. 

The Prayers of A Child

Dear Harvie Sue,

Your mother and I strive so hard to educate you, discipline you, to teach you write from wrong. Somedays it is a real struggle.We ask ourselves, where did we go wrong. It seems like the older you get, the harder it is for us to get you to listen. There are days when the seat of your time out chair, stays warmer than our furnace on a cold day. And then, quite out of the blue, you turn around and surprise us. It gives us hope for the future. As if all of our efforts are not completely in vain. 

The other day, we were writing a letter to John-boy, who is away at boot camp for the Marines. We have all been saying prayers for him everyday that he will do well and be safe. Somewhere along the lines this must have sunk in. As you were coloring him a beautiful coloring page to send him, you dropped your crayon on the floor, leaned in, and laid your hand on the page, and attempted to whisper a quiet prayer. It was more of a jumble of words, followed by a loud drawn out, Amen! But the mere fact that you wanted to say a prayer for him, brought a tear to you ole’ dad’s eyes. I’m so proud of things you are learning. It makes me feel like a better father, especially during a time when I needed it the most. I only pray that God will grant me the wisdom to continue to raise you right.

I love you always,

Dad

Rollin In Style!!!

Yesterday I posted a letter to Harvie about her Attention to Detail and I shared a photo of her trip to the grocery store in her cute outfit. Since then I have discovered even more photos and videos that my wife had that I was unaware of. So for your enjoyment, here they are.  

  This drink was not as good as she made it out to be.

  

 This grocery cart was actually Harvie’s first Christmas gift this past year from her future uncle JonBoy. He gave it to her early because he was shipped out for Marine Boot Camp at the beginning of December. If you are the praying type, keep him in your prayers.

 
 She was really strutting her stuff that day. I can’t believe how big she is getting!

 

Attention To The Details

 
Dear Harvie Sue,

Here lately you have developed something I never saw coming. Hopefully it’s not Daddy’s OCD lol. You have started to become very particular about things. Even to the point of having attitude. For example, you can not stand crumbs. You probably don’t like how they feel, particularly because you also don’t like wearing clothes. This would also explain why you have started pointed out when your diaper is wet. Well potty training is just around the bend. I’m already so proud of you. You’ve already peed in your potty chair several times now. It won’t be too much longer before you are going all on your own!

This is just scratching the surface though. Baby dolls have to sit a certain way in the chair; toys have to be a little row, and today when we took you to the grocery store with your little cart, you wouldn’t push it if there was stuff in it. Everything has to be just so. I suppose that is a good thing. It means you won’t miss any of the little details in life. It’s a trait that was passed from my dad, who was a architectural draftsman, to me as a graphic designer, and now you. I can’t wait to see how you will use this gift.

Love, Dad

Love is Strong but Life is Hard

Love Dear Harvie,

I know this statement seems rather pessimistic in nature, but there is a point I am trying to make. Recently I was confronted with the issue of when is a good time to tie the knot. Now, I will say, I’m no expert in this area, but one thing I have learned is this. Although love is very strong, and can endure many things, its strength differs for each individual. You have to have experienced enough of life, and the hardships it brings, in order to truly know if the love you have, can stand the trials that life throws your way. So don’t rush when it comes to marriage. Experience life. The more difficult challenges you face, especially if its together, the deeper your love will grow for each other.

Love, Dad

Daddy & Harvie Photo Op

I love spending time with my little angel, and from the looks of it she enjoys spending time with me as well. These were so cute, I just had to share! If you would like to make your own photo collage like this one, with special effects, head on over to PicMonkey. It is a great site!

Daddy's Little Angel

Laughter: The Best Kind of Magic

A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. – Proverbs 17:22

Dear Harvie Sue,

I don’t think there is a sound that is more pleasant, than hearing you laugh. There are lots of videos out there on Youtube and elsewhere on the web, of babies laughing hysterically, and they always bring a smile to my face. Mostly because I dreamed of the days when I would get to enjoy this with my kids.

As you go through life, try to surround yourself with people that can make you laugh. Set a personal goal of at least making one other person laugh each day. Laughter is medicine for the spirit. It will lift you up during the hardest of times. Finding ways to make you smile, and even laugh, is something I strive everyday to do with you, and it boosts me up every time. If magic truly exists in this world, then it would have to exist in the laughter of a child.

Blogging 101: Who am I, and why I’m here?

Today’s assignment: write and publish a “who I am and why I’m here” post.

I’m a Husband, a Father, a Christian, a Cook, a Graphic Designer, and now I’m trying to become a blogger. As to why I’m here, I haven’t really decided that myself yet. I guess the real reason why I created my blog was because I wanted to write down the memories that I have with my daughter, who is almost six months old, so that I can share them with her later. Most of the time, I try to write my blogs as if I were talking directly to her, except for entries that wouldn’t really apply. In a way, this is a milestone book.

Why are you blogging publicly, rather than keeping a personal journal?

As I have started publishing posts, it has become more and more of my thoughts and experiences as a new parent. A way for me to share with the world my thoughts and feelings. I do it publicly because I want to contribute in some way to someone else. Perhaps even to my own children when they reach my age. If there is something that I have learned a long this parental path that can be of some use to someone else, then I will feel as if I have given back in some small way. Most likely, however, this will be a resource for myself, so that when I  have my second, or even third child, I will avoid making the same mistakes.

What topics do you think you’ll write about?

Currently I have several categories I am writing in.

  • 52 Reasons Why I Love Your Mom
    • I want my daughter to know the importance of loving your life partner. These are weekly posts, that I publish on Fridays (or attempting to, as I’m still working out the kinks in my calendar) that are small blurbs about why I love my wife. You can find them under the Husband Category in the menu at the bottom of the page.
  • Letters to Harvie
    • These entries, which a lot of the time include videos and pictures, are written as needed and are milestones as well as thoughts that I want to share with my daughter, as the time is quickly passing me by. This are generally written as informal letters. To Harvie, from Dad.
  • Words of Wisdom
    • These are also informal letters to Harvie, but are specifically an important piece of advice I want to share with my daughter. I haven’t set a schedule for these yet but I would like to write one once a week, perhaps on a Tuesday.

Anything that isn’t in these three categories, are more general posts and would fall under the best suited category such as husband, father, blogger, cook, etc. As far as anything else I write on my blog, it is still very much up in the air. I am hoping this course will help me gain some clarity as to what else I would like to try to do.

Who would you love to connect with via your blog?

I have been using the WordPress reader, along with tags, in an attempt to connect with other new fathers, as well as experienced ones, to gain some insight, and/or inspiration. Along the way, I have found mothers, christians, cooks, among other bloggers who I have also come to love.

If you blog successfully throughout the next year, what would you hope to have accomplished?

The only goal, as of now, that I would like to have accomplished throughout this year, is to establish a small blogging family that shares their thoughts, opinions, feelings, experiences, etc. I have another goal that has started to form, but I haven’t completely fleshed it out yet. If this blog is successful, another goal I may want to attempt is to create individual blogs for my other children so that I can personalize each and every one. Like I said I haven’t had a whole lot of time to give this much thought.

Hopefully this has been informative. I hope to see you out their soon. Be sure to like and leave your thoughts and comments below. If you have any suggestions of things you would like to write about, feel free to let me know. Otherwise follow me and watch my wonderful baby girl grow.

 

They said it gets easier.. They Lied

Dear Harvie,

This statement is so true. Mother’s are wonderful beings. Full of patience, compassion, endurance, and most of all love!

Sweet Baby & Mama

I don’t think it gets easier. I think that we just adapt. We adapt to the sleepless nights, the nonexistence of silence, we adapt to our messy lifestyles and our loss of freedom. I do love my sweet baby and i love being a mother. But i know it wont get easier. Even though she takes all my time, money and existence. She is the best thing that ever happened to me. day by day i fall in love with this little creature!

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Changing Stations & Gawking Onlookers

Daddy Rant

Do you know how hard it is to find a changing station, especially in a mens bathroom? Well if you are a father like me, who wants to play the active daddy role, then you know what I’m talking about. It is so aggravating to be lugging a poopy baby in one arm, and a diaper bag in another, while hunting down that which does not exist. What do men do when they are alone with their baby.

Changing Station A rare commodity for men to find.

And as frustrating as that is, when you actually do find a changing station in the mens bathroom, such as the one that is in my local Wal-Mart, they put it out in the open instead of in a private stall. The last time I took my daughter in there to be changed, it was like being in downtown Chicago during rush hour. There were those that were taking care of business, while others were simply parked in the intersection waiting for their turn.

Guys just because you are waiting for an empty urinal, doesn’t give you the right to gawk at my daughter while I’m taking off her clothes. She is a baby for gosh sakes. Mind your own business, and focus on yourself.

End Rant!